At least one day of each month I'll put on this rainbow equality shirt I have, along with my rainbow vans and rainbow eyeshadow, but each time I do this my Nan won't look at me or barely talk to me. She knows of my sexuality somewhat (enough to know I'm not straight) but chooses to completely ignore it. She always wants me to dress so "girly" and I've never liked dressing that way. She doesn't like the slit in my eyebrow and has told me repeatedly to stop slitting it but I refuse to, it feels like a way of showing my pride each day. Both of my grandparent are somewhat homophobic and all the way transphobic, so I know they'd freak if I came out as a sexuality and gender they've probably never heard of. I don't know what to do. I feel so trapped and alone.
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How do I deal with this?
How do I deal with this?
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First thank you for answering my question. Second my advice is to keep show off your pride. The queer community has been hidden by society for a long time. It was literally punishable by jail time and even sometimes death to have people like us on the media in the 1900's. Even when we were on the media they presented us like where villains or have them suffer terrible fates on screen because they didn't want us to believe we can't be happy if were queer. This where a lot of stigma comes from so by being who you truly are you contracting those stigmas created by the movie industry because we just by existing we are protesting there hateful ideals. Plus dif you keep showing off your pride your family might get used to more. I also suggest coming out maybe by a giving them letter and having them read it when you won't be around so they have a chance to think about before you talk about it with them. Also maybe show them more queer content to help them get used to it and educated them on the Queer Community so that they can hopefully better understand you and us. Lastly remember your not alone. There a entire community who willing to support you and help you. If you need help or if you don't think you can go on I promise that there be a army of people ready to help and fight for what right. I really hope this was helpful in anyway.
I would like to apologies that this isn't advice but I have one question about your situation. Did you already come out to both of your grandparents yet or do they just suspect that your queer? It is just not completely clear or I just not reading it correctly.