I came out as a lesbian when I was 13. At first, my parents seemed okay with it, but as I began to get a little older, and my attraction to girls was growing stronger, and more obvious. They then began to say that my attraction to girls isn't real, and it's 'just a phase', that whole thing. Me, being the headstrong, stubborn girl I am, I refused to back down, and continued to be who I am, much to my parents dismay.
Mum and Dad then decided to show their homophobia in a different way - they told me, and continue to tell me that I have no idea what gender I am attracted too, because the term 'sexuality' implies that you have a sexual preference, which I wouldn't understand because I have never had sex, therefore, I am not allowed to feel attraction to girls in any way shape or form, because I don't know what my sexual preference is.
I have tried to explain over and over again, that while yes, I won't know my sexual preference until I have had sex, but for now, I feel strong ROMANTIC attraction to other girls.
For me, there is a huge difference between sexual and romantic attraction and preference, and, seeing as I have no interest in boys, males in general, and I feel strong attraction to girls/females in general, therefore I identify as lesbian.
Sexuality shouldn't be based on sexual preferences, it should be just based on what gender you feel more comfortable with in general, not just in the bedroom.
I would love for someone to give me some tips on how to help my parents understand that there is a difference, and help them accept me.