ok, so i know i'm not ace or aro, and i am like ninety percent sure i've been attracted to boys before, but i don't know what is attraction and what is heteronormativity that society has shoved down my throat. additionally, i'm like fifty percent sure i've felt attraction towards women and enbies, but i don't want to say that i am bi/pan without knowing for sure because i don't want to be wrong and add to the stereotype of bi/pan people being "confused." i know i am valid regardless of my sexuality, and even if i am straight i will definitely be an ally, but it's really confusing! so basically, my question for bi/pan people is do you feel different attraction vibes towards people of different genders, and for straight or gay people, did you ever feel some form of attraction to the opposite sex? it also doesn't help that i've never been in a relationship or had any romantic encounters, so this could all be in my head...
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how the hell do i figure out my sexuality..
how the hell do i figure out my sexuality..
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I just want to say thank you to everyone who commented. i have since come to identify with being bi because i'm like 90% i really like this girl and sometimes it's hard because i don't know if i wanna be her or kiss her (or some of both) :)
I can agree in so many ways! i have never been in a relationship either and am not sure if its just society shoving heterosexuality on me. but I have a feeling that I am bi. also IT IS OK TO BE CONFUSED! IT IS ALSO OK TO CHANGE YOUR LABEL! if you feel bi/pan right now and then in 2 months you figure out your actually straight That's fine! You have the right to figure yourself out! yes it does feel different for different genders and just different people. I cant explain either feeling but it does have a little to do with HOW you are attracted to someone for instance I romantically and sexually attracted to women and ( as far as I know) I need to know a guy before i can be attracted to them in any way! last thing is remember your loved and are just figuring yourself out! ❤️
Hi, I'm not Bi or Pan, but I did identify with both for awhile and I'd just like to say a couple things. The most important thing you need know is that there's no pressure or time limit for figuring your out what your sexuality is. I know you probably feel like you just have to know where you stand, and I've been there. But it's ok to be confused, it's ok to identify with one sexuality then figure out that doesn't fit you and change it to another. Most people almost never get it right the first time, I know I didn't, and that's perfectly ok! It doesn't make you or whatever sexuality any less real or valid. Also know that there is a difference between sexual and romantic attraction, so try not to let those confuse you. But basically just take your time figuring it out, try not to let it stress you out, remember that it's ok to get it wrong as many times as it takes to get it right, and know that it's probably not all in your head. Wish you the best!<3
thank you so much! the only other question i guess i have is how to experiment (for lack of better word) with relationships while also not hurting people. i know there are a lot of stereotypes surrounding bi-curious people, especially girls, so idk how to go about that.
While it is really hard to tell heteronormativity from actual attraction, try to think if it takes conscious effort to think he's cute, or if you just think that when you see him. I'm Bi, and that really helped me figure that out. As for adding to the stereotype of Bi people being confused, it really is OK if you are. You're not proving anyone right or doing anything wrong. I have struggled with not wanting to prove that stereotype right, but it really is all in your head. I hope that helped, and if you still have questions, feel free to reply to this comment with them. <3
Hi I am Panromantic but only sexually attracted to men. I knew I was Panromantic because I had romantic crushes on girls before. Honestly the best way to describe my romantic attraction is being gender blind, not really caring what there gender was or being attracted to their gender just being attracted them as a human. I never really had any sexual attraction towards women. The only other attraction I felt towards women was aesthetic attraction, it were you like the way something looks and think it's beautiful but not in a sexual way, more in wow that exist way. There is also Omnisexuality, this is where your attracted to every gender but you don't love them as humans like Pansexuality you love them as there specific genders and Polysexuality where your attracted to more than two genders but your not attracted to all genders. Also there is such thing as being sexually and romantically Fluid were your attraction changes and shifts over time. I hope this both helps you and make sense to you.