I’m distraught rn I hope it’s okay that I rant here. Me and my mum were talking about gender and she says she’s really supportive of me being non binary and queer and Ik she loves me but she said really hurtful things and then when I told her it hurt me she just blew up at me. Some things really stuck with me and Ik I’m gonna remember them for ages. She said “ being non binary is like a slap in the face to her because she made me” and then later “people like you labelling yourself and putting yourself in boxes are harming the queer movement“. Plz tell me I’m not crazy for being upset I just really need a hug xx
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Things people say do tend to hurt, especially when it's from family. What I'm going to say probably won't comfort you but I want to at least try and help you because guess what? YOU ARE WORTH IT! People grow up around these ideals and begin to have them as well, she doesn't get it, how could she? She doesn't get the looks or fear our community has, no one outside of this community does. But she is saying that she loves and supports you now, and hopefully that's the truth. And yes I know, that doesn't make the hateful and hurtful words she said disappear, you have every right to be hurt or upset or angry, you have a right to feel your feelings. But please don't take it out on her, she clearly does not and might not ever understand how you feel or what you're going through. And know that being yourself is definitely not hurting the queer movement one bit. But you have me and your community to always help, support, and love you. From one non binary to another, you are valid, loved, and will get through this. You are an incredible human being and don't ever doubt your worth. I hope I've done more help than hurt with this comment but if anything I've said hurts or offends you then to hell with me ok? I'm send you a great big virtual hug! <3
Thank you so much this means the world to me 💗
first, I am so sorry that that was your mother's initial reaction, and I know what I'm going to say isn't going to help that much. it's not a comforting thing, but time is all she needs. if she never comes around you can decide whether or not she is worth the pain, but right now, it should be brushed off as ignorance. please don't use that against her, but she clearly doesn't understand that this in itself is a struggle of its own and all you need is to be supported and loved. we all love and support you here. know you are worth your weight in gold. believe that. you are valid. you are loved. and hell, if you need it, you are looking very androgynous today.