Hi everyone! I finally got diagnosed a month or two ago with ADHD. I know it's a little strange that I'm so happy about this but finally having an explanation for my struggles really has helped me. I do now have meds to help manage it which has been awesome. But I just kind of feel alone and like my parents don't really care. I mean my mom is pretty supportive I guess, but my dad just hasn't said anything to me about it. I think part of the reason is that he has always made offhand comments like "that kid over there with the tablet is going to grow up with ADHD" or "they just need to learn to focus" and it was these little comments that made me feel like my struggles weren't valid. So when I finally told my mom that I suspected I had ADHD and I told my dad why I hadn't mentioned it before, he said that me not saying anything about this before is entirely my fault and not his. But back to now he still hasn't really said anything about my diagnosis. My friends have all been really supportive, but there's only so much they can do since I don't live with them lol. I just kind of wanted to post this here in hopes of maybe feeling less alone. <3
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Oh my god literally we are the same person. My mum is supportive and doing what she can, and my dad literally thinks that anything he can do adhd people can do if they just try harder. He doesn't understand that our brains work differently and we don't have the luxury of just doing the shit we actually are trying so hard to do. We don't get to just have a good working memory and be able to focus when ever we "apply ourselves". And we're literally always applying ourselves. You're not alone, Its so invalidating and tiring that people don't understand how hard adhd is. And it hurts so much when they act like they go through the same thing, and tell us we just need to do this or that cause "everyone does that". Like no, its not the same. You are not alone.