Uh hi! I go by Lupa (for privacy reasons) and I just signed up after looking for people to support me. I use any pronouns whatever is comfortable for people! Although I mainly just stick with she/her or they/them. :) Just this year I came out as bisexual to my friends. I haven't come out to anyone in my family yet but I'm not really hiding it as I don't think it's a secret I need to keep. But if I do end up coming out it'll end up being next year or when I become of legal age. :)
✨Added a picture of Brendon Urie because P!ATD music (especially girls/girls/boys) really helped me through everything and helped me find who I am! ✨
My friends and my boyfriend took it really well and I'm so thankful that they support me. This was the first big step towards finding out who I am because for years I feel I've truely denied who I am. In 7th grade I "came out" as a lesbian to my cousin whom outed me. (we don't really talk any more this being one of the reasons) And my aunt told my parents and they thought my cousin was just lying. (as that was something my cousin did often.) Then I got my first boyfriend in 8th grade and honestly forgot all about it until my 9th grade year. 8th grade and 9th grade were pretty hard for me mentally and so this was a beautiful light at the end of my dark tunnel. So I joined an LGBTQIA site to help and found myself for the first time.
(I'm currently questioning if I'm pansexual but all I know is I like peopleeee!! :D)
Most recently I have come out to 3 of my friends as a demi-girl. One night I found myself on trans masc tik toks and watching these men getting their binders and seeing the happiness on all of their faces made me happy. I explored binding for the next week (safely) and found myself feeling extremely euphoric when seeing my chest binded. I had questioned if I was genderfluid for awhile but I soon realized I feel feminine sometimes but also non-binary. And considering myself genderfluid and non-binary seemed like wearing a pair of jeans 10 sizes too big/small. So I found the term demi-girl and it was a perfect fit!
If anyone has any tips on coming out as demi-girl/gender please let me know! (As I still have to come out to my boyfriend.) I ended up using a nonbeenary vibes video to come out to my best friend and it worked perfectly! :D
hi!
I have come out about my gender about.... six times, each with a different label. Some of them were on good terms, some not-so-good, including to my crush (^-^) who fully supported me. From that, I've learned that if your boyfriend truly cares for you, he'll love you and support you on your journey of gender exploration. I also learned that sometimes you have to explain to people what your labels mean, and you may have to give them some time to process, if they don't already know. You may have to correct them with your pronouns, if they've changed (I dunno your biological sex), but they'll get better if you're patient with them.
I'm so happy that you found a label you're comfortable with!! good luck coming out, and I love the P!ATD photo because the and Girl in Red - 10/10. no 10000/10. no better than that