So, I think this is the right category to post this in, but if it isn't then I apologize. My parents have been in a bit of a financial dilemma for a couple years now, and the pandemic hasn't helped. They don't have even close to the amount needed to put me or my brother through college. A significant portion of that money also has to go to medication and treatment of my mental illnesses, (unfortunately healthcare is pretty expensive here in the US) and even then there have been periods of time where I've had to go off of my meds because they needed to use the money to pay for other things. I feel guilty or like an unnecessary burden to them, and like there has to be a way for me to help. So, since the age of consent in my state is 16 (my age currently), and you can even get married to an adult at 14, I've thought about getting a sugar daddy. I am seriously willing to do it if it means I have a solid monetary support system to pursue a higher education and make something of myself. There are connections that I have, but I feel like I need the opinions of others before I go through with it.
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I know I'm late but I found this and want to respond.
First of all, it really sucks that you and your family have been put into the situation. You are NOT a burden, and this is NOT your fault. You deserve to have everything you need for a healthy, happy life, and I'm very sorry that our world hasn't given you that.
Sometimes you just have to do what you have to do. But you should also consider the long-term effects of this. Make sure that you stay safe. I don't have any firsthand experience with this kind of thing, but a lot of my friends have told me their stories so I know a bit.
Only you can make this decision, and there's an untold number of factors that I can't and will never know. I will give you this advice: make sure that you think this through carefully, and that you have the support you need in case things go south, whatever that might mean.
Sending you lots of love.
I can't tell you whether you should go through with it or not, as I have no knowledge or experience in the area, but here are some things to consider I guess:
16 is awfully young to get married, would you later regret it?
Do you think you could ensure your safety in the marriage?
Don't feel as if your health and well being is a burden to your parents, as well.