i have social anxiety since I was like 12 it all started with bullying it lasted 10 years maybe longer. I recently found I am scared of man because of sexual harassment and rape when I was younger and a teen.... I never told anyone about it because my family would say it was my one fault . I tried to tell a friend when I was 16 but she only laughed at me because she didnt believe me (she was friends with the guy). I travel for work and work in different hotels when I was working in Egypt there where only man in the hotel I didn’t talk to any of them or looked them in the eyes because Im always scared didn’t talk to them my colleagues always made fun of me that I’m skittish and act like an wild animal but actually I’m not I’m just cautious and the same thing happened in turkey and in Greece ( i was also sexually harassed) I don’t allow people to touch me no hugs nothing not even females or my family . I’m even cautious around my father and my brother and they never did anything. I’m just tired to be always cautious and scared around men or other people I’m just tired to worry 24/7 and to not trust anyone and especially my family. Maybe someone has experienced the same things and can help me or someone can tell me what to do because I don’t know anymore.....
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That makes complete sense given your set of experiences. I am ever so sorry that those things happened to you. Other people have already said this but victim blaming is so horrible . I'm afraid I don't have any advice but to let yourself take time to heal. I am happy to listen if you want to talk about anything. You are amazing and it is okay, I promise, non of this is your fault.
Victim blaming has to stop. It's 10000000000% their fault, and I don't understand how someone could do that do you(or anyone)and then call themselves human.
I'm so sorry you have to go though that if you ever want to talk I'm here
There is a lot to unpack in this post. Number one, the things that you experienced are absolutely not your fault, you did not deserve it. second, and i know that this may seem cliche, but i personally would recommend some sort of therapy. I know that that has been helpful for a lot of people in overcoming fear, specifically a friend of mine. Also, just know that there are people who will care about you and be patient with you. I know that psychology today´s website has some more resources that may help you out. I hope that i was able to be of some help at least.
Oh also, Be patient with yourself, healing from trauma can take time. But you will get there😁