Hello, friends. I’m a total virgin and i know a big part of that is just that I have had body issues for a while so I didn’t want to do that while I wasn’t completely confident but a whole other part is just that I’m scared of how much my first time will hurt (I’m a lesbian btw). Does it hurt really bad or am I just blowing it out of proportion? Lmk, thanks!🤙
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Sex shouldn't hurt, it's something for you to enjoy not something that is done to you!!
If you go slow and are relaxed and into it it should not hurt, the first time may be slightly uncomfortable as you get used to sizes but this is actually easily overcome, especially if you're a lesbian! Start small and build up to a point you want to be at. Use plenty of lube and tell your partner to go easy and mix penetration with things you know you enjoy.
Remember you should enjoy it and if you're stressed/scared you probably won't, buildup to it, there's no rush! Good luck 💕
I shouldn't hurt unless you do something wrong or you have a condition that causes it to hurt. I might suggest masturbation to explore your body, your likes and dislikes. It is also important to use communication with your partner. If you are feeling uncomfortable, there's no shame in asking to slow down or just stop. It may take time to get used to it, but once you figure it out, it's a great experience! Sorry if this isn't the best answer. I am asexual and a virgin, so I don't have much experience, but this is what I would suggest! Good luck! <3
depends. if there is penetration without proper lubrication, it can be uncomfortable, but there are many other types of sex that you can enjoy without penetration. feel free to email me at ollielolar2022@rsu26.org if you nee anything else!