I’ve been questioning my sexuality for a while now, and I think I’m attracted to women. But I don’t know. What if I’m making it all up, convincing myself that I’m gay because I want to be special, and it turns out I’m actually straight? What if I come out and then realise I was wrong? How can I be sure? I hate having all these unsaid feelings inside of me, but I don’t want to speak in case I’m wrong. A friend has recently come out as bi, and I’ve tried to react positively, showing support, but internally I’m in a complete turmoil; I‘m so glad they feel comfortable sharing their feelings, but I envy their ability to do so. And now if I choose to come out, am I stealing their moment of notice and appreciation, will I be seen as copying them, as just wanting attention? Am I an awful person for feeling worse now they have come out? In summary, I don’t know what to do, or what to feel...
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yes, i can relate whole-heartedly. for me it has helped to take on the mindest of: well, im just going to go with my gut (calling myself bisexual) and if/when that changes, i will be open to trying out something else. always remember that you dont owe ANYONE a label, an explaination, or anything else. come out if/when you want to, if/when it feels best to do so. sending love and queer vibes to all 💖💜💙.
Its perfectly ok to be unsure my dude
Remember: Sexuality (and gender) is fluid and fluxuating!! I'm bi, but some weeks I really want a girlfriend. Some, vice versa. If you change your label, you weren't wrong, you just changed. Also, if you're not quite sure what you are- its easier t identify as queer. It has less limitations!
I hope you feel better, and figure everything out!! <3
Hey, I completely understand what your saying about questioning your sexuality and worried about being wrong because I'm in exactly the same position as you and I know it sucks. I am just about to post something saying a similar thing, So your not alone in being completely unsure - sorry that probably doesn't help. And if there a true friend speak to them and explain your feeling and hopefully they should respect you.