Hi, I'm 13 and I want to come out to my family but I'm worried that I will get overwhelmed like when I came out to my friend, but unlike with her, I can't really escape from them to cool down because I live with them (I even share a room with my little sister). Also, what is it like after you come out in general? Scary, exciting, wonderful?
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What happens after you come out to your family?
What happens after you come out to your family?
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it's scary to come out, but it's amazing when it finally happens. i came out to my conservative south asian parents and even they said they would try to understand and support me. if your parents are open-minded, it's great, but if not, it doesn't automatically get easier when you come out. don't just drop the bomb on them all at once, go step by step. it takes time. i'd suggest explaining what sexuality/gender preference is to them just in general BEFORE coming out, so they are more understanding. also you could drop hints. i watched a movie with my parents once which had a single gay character and i told them how it was great to have more diversity (this was before i came out) so they knew about my views on lgtbq+ issues. it's easy to get overwhelmed when you rush it, so take as much time as possible. and yes its overwhelming to come out but you'll be glad you did it. good luck and lmk how it goes!!
it's scary to come out, but it's amazing when it finally happens. i came out to my conservative south asian parents and even they said they would try to understand and support me. if your parents are open-minded, it's great, but if not, it doesn't automatically get easier when you come out. don't just drop the bomb on them all at once, go step by step. it takes time. i'd suggest explaining what sexuality/gender preference is to them just in general BEFORE coming out, so they are more understanding. also you could drop hints. i watched a movie with my parents once which had a single gay character and i told them how it was great to have more diversity (this was before i came out) so they knew about my views on lgtbq+ issues. it's easy to get overwhelmed when you rush it, so take as much time as possible. and yes its overwhelming to come out but you'll be glad you did it. good luck and lmk how it goes!!
I just want to say I agree with REBECCA HUANG to come out to people you can trust first. Only come out to people when your a hundred percent that you will be safe because your safety is highest priority. Also how it feels after coming out depends on how they react when you came out. When their accepting in my experience it feels freeing. The anxiety you felt about telling them fades away and it feel like after years of being stuck in a cage you finally the cage door starts to open and your finally free. That how I describe the feeling but other experience may be different. I don't really have much experience with negative reactions. mainly because I only came out to a few friends I now I can trust. But I imagine it doesn't feel good. Also if you get to overwhelmed when coming out I recommend texting them to write them a note and have them read it when you aren't around so they can process it before they talk to you so they don't do anything rash.
I would start small, if you trust your sister, (or any other person) come out to them first, then you have an ally/moral support. I’m not an expert, mind you.