Support? | The Queer Kiwi

I came out to my step-mom a couple days ago and she seemed cool with it when I told her I was gay (I'm queer but I wanted to make it easier to understand) but I also knew she wasn't. We actually just finished shopping for boots when she asked and she clearly didn't like what boots I had picked at all. I had picked some from the women's section (because obviously I couldn't shop in the men's because ✨sexism✨) that looked the least feminine I could find, and she questioned me several times if I wanted a more feminine pair or if those were really the ones I wanted and I answered yes every time but it didn't stop her from asking several other times. I knew she wasn't for me being gay but I also didn't think she was totally against it, but man did I find out I was wrong tonight. So I wore rainbow eyeshadow today because I felt that after figuring out my authentic self I didn't have to worry about showing my true colors around the rest of my family. I had a couple family members mention it and give me "the look" (including my step-mom), know the one where it's almost the judgmental look but they try not to show it? Yeah, that one. I didn't think much of it, 'cause people will judge no matter what so why stress, ya know? But I was later told by my younger cousin (that I'm already out to) that she overheard my step-mom say some stuff after my cousin was asked to leave the room so she could talk about "Christmas Presents". But that was obviously a lie, my cousin overheard my step-mom talking to my nan about me being gay and it not being right, all that ✨Homophobic✨ stuff that (most) conservative people just love to show. And that just really hit me, my family's against me? It just hit a different spot. I don't really care all that much about people's opinions on me, even my family's, 'cause I believe that in order to be happy you have to be okay with being who you are besides what people think of you. But I don't exactly know how to get over my family being against me and who I am. Any advice from someone familiar with any form of this situation or anyone who thinks they could help me? Any advice is greatly appreciated! <3

2 Comments

NoName(All Pronouns)

Nov 27, 2020

Best Answer

On a situation like this I suggest you keep embracing your authentic self and don't let them put you back in the closet. Almost all conservative families act like this at first because there not used to it and they don't completely understand all of this queer stuff yet. Also for the homophobia and the sexisms I recommend trying educate them on the Queer Community and to talk to them about this so they can better understand you and hopefully accept you. Lastly if it seem too much at times, like if it feel like it's suffocating you, feel free to come here or other communities like it to breath. I promise there will always be someone to support you here. I hope this was helpful.