You see this guy in my class came out at school as trans. I don't really know his specific gender, I just know he goes by he/they pronouns and want to go on testosterone. He doesn't really know i'm trans too, he probably thinks I'm a really supportive cis guy who knows a lot about tran rights. I have been helping them find resources to help there transition like finding a good gender clinic where we live and finding vocal exercise to help his voice deeper. So I wondering if I should tell them I'm non binary, more specifically pangender or should be quiet and let them find out with everybody else because I don't really don't know this guy , I really just started talking to him because he had his ID tag in Zoom show a new name and pronouns and I ask if he would prefer if I call him by that name instead of his old one. I just wondering if it a good idea because I barely know anything about them, but it would be nice to have someone to help me when I come out as trans or someone who understands what it like to be trans but, I don't know if I should specifically come out to them because well I barely know them sense i'm on online school and students don't interact much with each other.
Feel free to provide some clarity on this situation if anybody able.
I think your anxiety did come because you were overthinking. Society has made coming out seem like such a big and stressful deal to the point that we freak out about doing it and start to overthink it. But ya know what? You've got this! And there's no need to overthink it or stress about it, 'cause he won't judge you for it. And it's easier said than done, but when you do decide to say it just act like you're telling him something simple like your favorite food. And remember it's not a bad thing you're telling him, so don't think of it like it is. You having the courage to even want to tell him is something to be proud of. Be confident in who you are! Because you are amazing and unique! And know that you're community will be with you when you do! <3
Wish me luck, a teacher just ask for my preferred pronouns and I am about to come out as nonbinary to her.
I need a pep-talk. You see after he responded to my question about the binder for no reason I suddenly started to feel horrible anxiety about coming out( I didn't come out to him yet). It was literally for no reason which cause me to go in a temporarily state of denial about identity that didn't last long. It was really strange. It literally came out of nowhere. Usually when I have anxiety it usually come when I either overthinking something or when I am the center of attention. I feel like I need a pep-talk of some sorts or just some word to ease my anxiety when it comes to me coming out to him.
I think that'd actually be a great topic to get to know him better and let him know that you're comfortable talking about things like that. <3
In my opinion I think you should come out to him. I think it'd give him as well as you a sense of community and it might make him feel more valid by knowing he has a friend that understands him in a way a cis person never could. But I would suggest getting to know him a bit before doing so, it might seem a bit strange for a person he barely knows to randomly come out to him out of no where. But I think what you're doing for him is incredible, just kudos to you for supporting him as well as helping him find resources to help him transition. <3