Should I come out at school. I've been bullied most of my educated life and the things they did range from making fun of the fact I couldn't read when I was younger because I had a reading disability to constantly saying to me that I didn't deserve to exist. It didn't help that I had suicidal thoughts sense those word only validated them and cause me to hurt myself. I haven't been bullied lately and I haven't had a suicidal thought for a long time now. But i'm afraid coming out will put a target on my back for bullies and im scared that will destroy my mental health again and I be back to hurting myself again. Also if you join the LGBTQAI + Allies club at my school will my fellow queer people respect my choice of not coming out yet.
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Should I come out at school?
Should I come out at school?
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Bro, I feel you on a spiritual level. I've gone through the exact same thing for years. I came out as a non-binary lesbian earlier in the year, to my entire year group. We were doing our student representative speeches, and I thought, you know what, fuck it. This is who I am, and if the assholes in my year don't like it, well they can suck it, cause I don't care. This might not be your mindset, as everyone is different, but from someone that has experienced the same damn thing, I can tell you that the only time, and I mean the ONLY time you should come out is when you feel confident and validated in yourself. Don't let anyone push you into coming out when you aren't ready, including your own head. If you aren't ready, don't do it. Just remember that you don't need to validate, or seek the approval for who you are from anyone but yourself. Just be you. And whether that is out and proud, or still in the closet, as long as you stay true to yourself, you will soar my friend.
And btw, an LGBTQAI+ group will uplift you for who you are. That is why they are there. Of course they will support you, and offer advice if you need it. It is a family, a community. They will support you before, during and after your coming out.
Life is too short to give a shit about what other people think of you; be you and be proud. - My life motto, no joke.
i won't lie, i'm not an expert here. i'm also closeted. but provided it's safe for you -both physically and mentally- i would say it's better to come out. it's easier and less scary for people to know who you are. and if people don't like it, well, screw them, i didn't ask what they think.
if you're worried about your mental health declining, there are lgbtqia+ specific therapists who can help with the impact being a member of the lgbtqia+ community on your mental health.
i hope you figure it out, and good luck! we'll support you no matter what <3
I am stugling wi the some thing btw I am lesbian. And my school is homaphbic