ok I identified as bi for awhile and was pretty certain about that. But then I realized I was not attracted to dick and had no desire to having sex with a person with a dick. so I soon after started identifying as a lesbian. But now I’m not sure. I know for sure I am attracted to women but I am not sure if I am attracted to men too. I have been having really intense anxiety over the fact that I won’t be able to have kids the “normal way” or be what is expected of me. So that adds to the “is my mind making up desires do that I won’t have the anxiety?“ it’s just so fucking confusing especially because I’ve never actually physically dated anyone. I had one relationship but we never saw each other during the time because of covid! I thought I had it all figured out for so long and now it feels like the walls are caving in on me! Please help, I’d love advice!!
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Edited: Dec 11, 2022
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dude. i feel you, and it kinda sucks. it is so hard to tell if the heteronormativity is getting into your head more than you think it is, and, to be honest, i don't have any magic words. what i will tell you is something that took me a while to learn. take it one step at a time. one person, one attraction, one relationship then the next. i know how hard it is to feel like you can't find a perfect label and the one you once had doesn't fit anymore, but you are so much more than any label. if a banner helps you, use whatever one you feel like in the moment and try not to worry about keeping it consistent. i don't know if any of this is even remotely helpful, but good luck with all this, and if you ever need someone to talk to, let me know! :)