Okay, here we are, we're doing this. This is scary-
I have been messing around with gender expression and questioning my gender identity for about a year or a year and a half. Just two days ago I realized, well damn, I really don't wanna be labeled as she/her. I have come out to my partner, and three peers so far. I cant come out as gender-queer to my parents/family until I move out, they don't understand they/them pronouns, gender fluidity, ect.
Now, the question- how do you stay solid is your gender identity when people tell you you don't "fit" what said identity looks like? I currently present rather feminine, occasionally androgynous. My curiosity is centered around most gender-queer people presenting rather androgynous. I don't want to be invalidated because of how I dress, yet in a way, I understand the confusion. How do y'all dress more masculine/feminine and still be able to stand strong in your gender expression?
I'm very excited to see everyone/anyone's opinions on this subject, I've been curious for a while. Love you all, have a blessed day/night~
<3,
Quinny
For me personally I tend to dress more masculine bceuase I'm a biosex male and I haven't came out as pangender yet plus my family have this mentality that promotes toxic masculinity. But I do kind want to dress more feminine like for example I'm trying to figure out a outfit for my senior prom to come out to my school which is technically year from now but I want to be prepared. I also have a track record for being bullied so i'm afraid if I come out to my school too early it would put a new target on my back. The outfit I was thinking was a back dress that comes down to my knees with a skirt the colors of the bangender flag pangender with a belt the color of the nonbinary flag in the middle because pangender is a non binary gender Identity. Iy also thought I would wear a jacket the color of the gay male flag with rainbow paint splatter pattern lightly covering it because before I realise I was pangender I identified as a gay guy and everything is better with rainbows. I'm not sure what accessories I should wear with this outfit though maybe a rainbow splatter bowtie. I'm also not sure about the makeup either. Also I can't decide between this or a couple other ideas I have. Also what do you think of my outfit I would love a outside opinion. Like do you think that all these colors are going to clash in this outfit.
Gay male flag,
Pangender flag
Non-binary flag