I came out to my mom as non-binary months ago by sending her a video that explained it because I was too scared too. Not because I’m not safe at home, im fine, but she’s kinda transphobic. She still uses she/her pronouns and things, which I don’t blame her for, I didn’t tell her I go by they/them, but I’m nervous ask. She’s very transphobic. I’m trans. Which I won’t tell her because GOD thats even MORE horrifying. Not just her, a good chunk of my boomer relatives. How do I ask for what makes no sense to them? Should I just not ask? It doesn’t affect me too much, so I’m worried I’m just being selfish...
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Edited: Dec 23, 2020
How to ask for preferred pronouns??
How to ask for preferred pronouns??
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My advice for explaining pronouns to those who may be transphobic is tell them that your old pronouns don't fit who you are and invalidate your identity and you prefer these pronoun because they are a more accurate in describing your identity. If they say they won't use your correct pronoun or just ignore this then I suggest you misgender your family and see how long it take for them to correct you so they see how important pronouns are and why they should use your pronouns. I hope you find this helpful.
Thank you so much❤️
You're not being selfish I promise. I sadly don't have much advice on this, I'm in a similar situation in the moment as well. But I believe you should ask her to use your pronouns, and if she doesn't want to or refuses to then just give it time and try again later, just do what you think is right, trust yourself. And know your not being selfish for asking to be called by your preferred pronouns or even being called by a new name that works better with your gender if that's something you want. It's not selfish to put your own needs ahead of others wants. But above all remember that me and your community are always here to support and help you! <3