I think I'm genderfluid but I don't know. I've already determined that I am panromantic and asexual, so it's really just my gender that I'm still questioning.
Over the past couple months, I've tried out non-binary, transgender, omnigender, neogender, and neptunic gender labels. But none of them really felt right. So then I tried out genderfluid.
And the thing is, I don't always know what gender I am. I don't always have days where I'm distinctly male, female or gender-neutral. Some days I'm not sure and I just sort of guess. I'll look in the mirror and try out they/them, she/her, and he/him pronouns (I don't use neo). I've tried using whatever pronouns feel right at the time, online and with friends, but even then, I still don't know.
On top of that, when I do know, they change so frequently. I have days where I stay the same gender the entire time, and others when I change five or six times.
I don't really know any gender-fluid people I can ask for advice, and most of my knowledge of the identity comes from Magnus Chase, as they have a gender-fluid and transgender character in it (Alex Fierro). Alex always knows, and is very definitive in their gender. But sometimes I really don't know. So am I still genderfluid?
I've been questioning for months and have helped other people with their gender questioning, but for some reason don't know for myself. Anyone have any advice?
Hi, genderfluid person here. Your feelings are completely valid! To me, you do sound like you may be genderfluid but it all depends on what you think and feel. You know yourself the best, you just have to dig deep down and pay attention. I don't know my gender most of the time, I just know what feels right to me. I never know what I'll wear the next day, so I just wait til the time comes and pick out what feels right in that moment. Sometimes my gender stays the same for weeks at a time, sometimes it changes every hour. This whole thing is a spectrum, there's no right or wrong way to feel. Just do what feels right for you. And trust me, you'll know what feels right and what feels wrong. I hope I was able to help you in any way! <3
Everyone has a different relationship to their gender and that is completely fine. If you want to use a label that feels right, you can. Labels can mean different things to different people, even if they use the same label and personally I think that's one of the things that makes them really cool. If you like the label gender-fluid and it's helpful to you, you can use it. That's completely up to you.
Also, you don't always need a label. If you want one, cool; if you don't, also cool. It's also okay not to know.
You are valid and your feelings are valid. Sending you lots of love and hugs (if you want them).