Ive been struggling to find my pronouns. My biological sex is male, but I'm not 100% comfortable with he/him pronouns but I'm not sure what my pronouns could be. Like ive been thinking about using he/they or they/them. But sometimes I think about she/her pronouns. I dont know what to use. Any advice is welcome. Thank you guys so much!
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How can I figure out my pronouns?
How can I figure out my pronouns?
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Oh my friend I feel you
I question my pronouns every day since February the 18th and it is ROUGH. But, something that's helped me so far is looking at myself in the mirror every morning, trying out a couple different sets of pronouns, and saying a basic sentences in third person. Like "Izzy likes YouTube. He is a fan of his hair, which he recently cut short." I say sentences like that in the mirror, every morning, just so I know what feels the most right at the time. I think I'm gender fluid, so that's what works for me, because it's not always immediately clear for me at first.
Another thing that works (and someone else already said it but repeition) is using different pronouns online, especially in places like this where majority wise, people won't know you, and will use WHATEVER you tell them
At the end of the day, whatever pronouns you decide, you are valid, and you are loved. Do what makes you happy ^-^
hi, this is something i struggeld with to. The thing that helped me figure it out was mainly talking to myself about myself (i know it sounds weird but its very funny) or using the pronouns you want to try out online (i can write something about you with your preffered pronouns if you like?) (i tried out they/she pronouns and the Ash, i really liked Ash, it sounded more like my name, but i also figured out that i actually don't care if you say they or she aslong as you are using both ofc ;))
i hope i could help you!
i am in a similar situation (except with she/her), but what has helped is testing them out.
if you have a friend or two you are comfortable with and can share this information, that would be helpful. what ive done is try out different sets. for example, right now im using ONLY they/them with a small group of my friends, as well as different name than usual. you can try out just they/them, he/they, she/her, she/they, etc. you could even have one person/group of people call you one set of pronouns, and another person/group call you another. (--this has really helped for me because in my situation, im really FINE with she/her, but it doesnt make me feel as comfortable. i've been using she/they for a bit now, but people STILL only use she/her. now that ive started with they/them, i get more chances to see how i feel with those pronouns. sorry- bit of an unintentional rant there.--) you could also do this in an anonymous online setting (such as a forum or server) where you feel comfortable.
if you dont have a friend you feel good sharing this information with or want to be more sure when you do, try it yourself. there are websites (ex: http://www.pronouns.failedslacker.com/) that can help with this. another technique is just decided a pronoun/set of pronouns that you will use for, say, a week, and try to think of those in a situation where someone calls you another. (for example if i was trying out they/them, every time someone called me she or her, i would mentally replace it just to see what it was like.) you can write down (or just mentally note) how you felt each time- this helped for me before i could tell anyone.
sorry if this was a bit rambly/ranty/unhelpful-- im still figuring this out myself. theres no easy fix, just getting to know yourself. in conclusion, i highly suggest what ive written, it's helped me a lot.
it is also ok to not know entirely. you can just go with what feels right- no matter how often that changes. hope this helped!