Hi y'all!
So I'm a pan girl in a conservative family, and my brother is the only one who validates me even though he's pretty homophobic. He's really sweet about my identity and all, but lately my gaydar has been going off around him. He started watching Glee alot lately, which isn't super weird cus he used to watch it all the time when we were younger, and of course he was complaining about all of the "gay stuff" with my mom. Then he got in trouble for watching p*rn, and I thought it was really weird that he was so defensive about watching other guys having sex. Like, really really defensive. I thought that was pretty strange, but then brushed it off cus he's a cis het Trump supporter who gets daily emails from the Ben Shapiro website so I thought maybe he was just trying to be clear that he wasn't the "rainbow sheep" of the family. But what really got me was the fact that he was singing the other day, and I didn't recognize the song, but the lyrics had super gay overtones. So I guess my question is, do you think my brother is closeted? I'm concerned that he might be and is kicking himself for maybe being bicurious and I don't want him to feel that way, but I don't want to straight up be like "hey are you gay" you know? So anyways, this is just a tiny thought, and I'm probably either just looking too much into things so I'm just gonna sit and observe with my mouth shut, but what do y'all think?
Your brother could be Queer but it sound like he could have some internalised homophobia or something like that so if you ask him directly it may send him deeper in the closet. I think the best thing you can do is let him know that you support him no matter how he identifies and let him know that he can always talk to you about stuff like this.