Hi! So I kinda know my pronouns, I don't quite know my preference but we can stick with she/he/they! However I’ve also been feeling they/she/he. I don’t know how to figure out my preference and how much society has influenced my view of my gender! And then the most difficult part, my expression of it! I am currently wearing a dress and pigtails because my little sister wanted to match and because I’m with my grandma so my mom insisted I wear a dress. I feel like I might implode and I certainly want to sink into my chair and throw up! This happens a lot (and of course my insecurities make it to where I don’t like myself if masc or femme clothes and finding actually good androgynous clothes is rly hard!) where I hate myself and feel like a fraud in whatever I’m wearing! plus sometimes I feel androgynous, sometimes I feel masc, sometimes I feel femme (it seems very rare tho) So idk if I’m genderfluid or something else! I’ve been identifying as genderfluid just for ease but idk if it accurate! I also don’t know if I’m feeling dysphoria or insecurity and I don’t want to say it’s dysphoria since I don’t want to invalidate ppl who are actually feeling dysphoria and since most of the time it’s not like I want to not have boobs. plus Idk if I am actually non-binary but am trying not to accept it or something since that’s what happened with my sexuality! Anyways any advice would be appreciated sorry this was such a ramble! ❤️
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Gender and gender expression pls help!
Gender and gender expression pls help!
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Thank you so much for the advice!!
Your pronouns and gender identity are totally valid! I understand how hard it is to be forced to wear pink and dresses and so-called "girly" things, and that doesn't invalidate your pronouns, which include She/Her. Genderfluid sounds like it might be a good way to describe you, but you don't need a label. If people ask, you don't owe them a definite answer. It takes a while to figure this stuff out. You are completely valid as you are, and what you wear or what pronouns you use don't invalidate your gender! It does sound like you might be dysphoric, and that's okay! It will take a while, but you'll eventually learn to handle it. If you want to express your gender, I suggest finding clothes that appeal to the gender or prounouns that fit you the best that day, Such as, if you're feeling more masc one day, you could wear more traditionally masculine clothes, but add little hints of more fem aspects. Mix and match! Figure out what you like. Your clothes don't have to correspond to your pronouns in a traditional way! You just have to like them! :)
I hope this helps!
-Cricket/Charlie
He/They