i am scared my parents won’t take me seriously or say that I am still confused (yes I am, I don’t know what i am, just not straight cause I know I like girls) and stuf. I do know that I am lucky to life in a family that won’t kick me out or cut of financial things. but it stil is scary...
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Can I come out even if I don’t have a girlfriend / has someone coming-out tips?
Can I come out even if I don’t have a girlfriend / has someone coming-out tips?
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Hi,
I'm so glad I was able to help and I'm so happy that your mom supports you! I totally know what you mean about that conversation, I had a similar one with my parents when I came out.
And idk this is probably really weird but I just wanted to let you know that just in case you ever wanted to talk or rant or just like be sad together over the fact that we both (apparently) don't have a girlfriend (partner) - feel free to email me. (swiss.potato.potato@gmail.com)
I really hope I don't sound like a fifty year old pervert, I just thought it might be nice (considering we're both slightly sexually confused individuals), but truly no pressure. :)
Hi,
in my opinion it is absolutely not necessary to have a partner to come out (, even though it might make it easier). Whilst I don't really know your parents opinion on the matter, I got from your post that it would be (relatively) safe to come out to them. Your fear of coming out is still totally valid. In regard to your fear of not being taken seriously it's probably important that you for yourself have a certain security in your sexuality. This means in no way that you can't still be confused about your exact label (or if you don't want to label yourself at all) but in case your parents accuse you of being confused, it might make it easier to explain to them (maybe again and again) that you like girls. Also, depending on the way your parents handle your coming out, you might be able/want to start a conversation with them regarding different sexualities because people often find it hard to understand things they have no connection with and educating people increases tolerance/acceptance.
To the actual process of coming out: I'm sure the internet has already provided you with a bunch of ideas. Personally I think, to explain the way you feel and make sure you're taken seriously, a talk with your parents would work well, or if you don't feel comfortable confronting them directly a letter would be good way too.
Of course everything I've just talked about is entirely subjective and might not be applicable to your situation.
I still hope I was able to help you at least a little bit. :)
P.S. Please remember you can take all the time in the world to come out.