You see I'm in the closet for my safety but it hurts to be in the closet it feels like a cage. So since I can't come out at home, so I was wondering if it was safe at school. So I had a idea. Their is this one guy who came out as trans at my school that I barley know so I thought I'll come out to him and ask him if it's safe at school. Here is what I am planning to send him. Do you think its a good idea?
I have a question for you. First may I say that congratulations on coming out, I know how scary that can be especially since I am trans too. I’m nonbinary or pangender( meaning that I feel like my gender is infinite) to be more specific. I use all pronouns but, I may change them to exclusively they/them pronouns so people will not just use he/him pronouns and keep seeing my gender as just being boy when my gender is so much more complicated than that. When it come to my name I have no idea what my name is going to be. Now for my question. Is it safe to come out at school? You see it not safe for me to come out at home but, being in the closet hurts. It feels like I’m in a cage and each breath I take the cage just keeps getting tighter and tighter. The problem is the cage while it causes me pain it also keeps me safe from a unaccepting world. So I just stay on the cage even though I’m being suffocated. So I am wondering if it safe at school so it doesn’t feel like I’m constantly suffocating. But past experience points to it being a bad idea because I been bullied a lot and I feel like this will just put another target on my back. Which would just trigger my suicidal thoughts which have been annoying lately especially since I started therapy and gave up self-harm. Also how do the teacher feel about people like us? I am also wondering if I came out at school if I can trust that no one will tell my parents because it not safe for me to be outed to them?
I think if you think he'll accept you and be on your side, I'd say go for it! As for teachers, I'd say that it depends on the teacher. I told my science teacher recently, and she said that she'd email other teachers and tell them to use she/they pronouns for me, but my english-language arts teacher hasn't used them, so it really depends. I think the email you want to send him sounds good, but stay safe. If there's any way this could be leaked to your parents or people who might hurt you for this, it might not be a good idea. Good luck! <3
How well do you know this person? if you don't know them very well maybe consider taking out some of the more personal stuff or ask them if they can keep it private first (just so no rumors get spread or anything).