Hey so I recently came out as bi and also recently started browsing on gay tiktok and saw a lot of videos talking about how a lot of lesbians wouldn’t date a bi girl. But I’ve only seen videos of people telling them to stop and not actually people hating on bisexuals. So I’d genuinely like to hear what kind of experiences especially bi people but also other LGBTQ+ members have had with this issue. Thank you all xx
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Well I've experienced mixed reactions from a lot of people. I feel a little discouraged when (SOME) lesbians talk about how they wouldn't want to date a bi girl! While on the other hand I've had (SOME) straight or even bi men fetishize me because I also like women. So yes biphobia is a thing but honestly that is only a fraction of the community! There are a lot of people out there that will accept you for you!
Much love~ <3
Hi! As a lesbian, I would date any woman or non binary person as long as they’re attracted to me and I’m attracted to them! If you are a lesbian and you wouldn’t date a bi girl, that’s just wrong.
I personally have not had any issues with this, but i cannot imagine how invalidating it must feel. I would say that if you come across someone who is like that, just know that they are in the wrong and not you. you will find people who love and support you no matter who you are or who you love 😀
Hey! This is a great question and I would like to share my personal experience.
Thankfully I have received no direct hate for it, but I have often experienced people being weird afterwards, especially woman, and saying things like "But I am not into you." Which is very annoying and also frustrating, since I have never been interested in any of these people, and always have to correct them without sounding like I want to defend myself, which is also very degrading.
But most of my friends have been very great about it and nothing has changed in our relationship.
I wish you good luck with yours!
i haven’t experienced this myself because i’m not out, but i have seen a lot of biphobia on tiktok as well as boys fetishising bisexual girls. unfortunately it is still a thing but most lesbians are really sweet and don’t care if you’re bisexual, so you should stay clear of people who don’t like you because of your sexuality, they aren’t worth your time and they won’t make you happy
Well personally I always seem to get along best with Bi Girls Obviously Im not able to date every Bisexual girl, And most Bisexual Girls probs wouldnt want to date Me but without Fetishizing Bi Girls, which I notice people also can do, If you're a Single Bi Girl and we really Connect, the possibilities are endless. 🥰
i am so sorry :(( it is so awful and it happens way too often. Cat and i actually have an entire podcast episode about this coming out in a couple weeks!! it's such a big and frustrating topic that we are really passionate about and hopefully it'll answer all your questions.
in the meantime: i've ultimately had pretty good experiences but have always been kinda scared to mention that i like boys too because i'm afraid of the reaction. most of the time it's fine but it's kinda scary. you just have to remember if they don't accept people for being bi, they aren't the type of people you want around.
i hope this was helpful!
hi! it's extremely invalidating and frustrating when this happens, so i completely understand. i've heard this before as a bi girl, and i know my bi friends have also heard this. there's still a lot of prejudice and internalised homophobia, even in the lgbt community. so i'm really sorry you're seeing this type of thing, just know there are people out there who will accept and date you for who you are, and that you are valid in your orientation.
(also side note, an upcoming podcast episode with Sav will be all about this so we'll talk much more in detail about it there.)