My ex-boyfriend, whom I remain to be friends with, started dating my best friend. They broke up recently, and she has been feeling down, but didn't want to talk about it and I didn't want to pressure her. Then a few days ago, my ex-boyfriend asked me if I wanted to hang out with him because after all, we are friends, I accepted. After that, My best friend found out I went out with him and got super mad. So I have to know am I an asshole for going out with him? am I a bad friend?
I feel like I should clarify I do not have feelings for him anymore, and I am talking to this girl who I really like.
No, you’re not a bad friend. Your intentions weren’t to upset your friend and you did nothing wrong by hanging out with another friend. If she is upset talk to her about it. You are not responsible for her feelings, but we shouldn’t ignore them either. Ask her why she is upset and what you can do to make her feel better. People are generally more sensitive after breakups so it’s not rare for this sort of thing to happen. Reassure her that it’s okay for her to feel how she feels because feelings are neither good nor bad, they’re just feelings, and no one should feel ashamed for having them. Just because she is upset shouldn’t mean she thinks any less of you.